Be a Good Neighbor

Tips to Resolve Conflict

Be a Good Neighbor, Maintain Peace in Your Neighborhood

You come home after a long day at work, looking forward to a relaxing evening. You change clothes, grab the mail and a cold drink, then sit down outside at your patio table. Ahhhh…peace and quiet.

Instead, you hear the neighbor’s radio playing way too loud. You go back inside and you can still hear the pounding musical beats. It seems even your windows are rattling.

Before you stomp over to the neighbor’s house and demand that they turn it down, we offer a few tips to keep the peace in your neighborhood.

  1. Don’t react now, when you are angry, frustrated or impatient. Few people react well to emotionally charged ultimatums. And your problem isn’t likely to be solved. Or, you have created a tension between neighbors that reduces the quality of life for you and your neighbors.
  2. The next time you see the offending neighbor, take a moment to have a friendly conversation. Ask him about his garden, his kids, his work. You’ve created a setting that welcomes open dialogue.
  3. Once you’ve exchanged neighborly pleasantries, you can tell him how the loud music affects you. Don’t be defensive; rather, be direct and polite. Instead of angrily saying, “You must turn down that loud music,” we recommend you phrase your request in a way that builds camaraderie. “How can we work this out?” is a forward-thinking question that indicates you want to work with him to find a positive conclusion.
  4. If your neighbor indicates that he isn’t open to working things out, don’t call 911. This isn’t life-or-death, nor should you escalate the situation to this level. You have other options.
    • You may wish to contact your neighborhood association for their input, including acceptable noise levels.
    • Since it is unlikely either you or your neighbor are moving any time soon and you genuinely want to work things out, another option is mediation. When your usual problem solving skills aren’t working, consider the professional assistance of a neutral, highly trained mediator.

Mediation is more likely to help mend relationships, rather than end relationships.

Check out this article – also on our website – Why Mediation Works  to learn more. And feel free to contact us at 402-345-1131 for more information about how mediation can help.

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